Misrelate

Have you reached your full human potential? By far, too many souls have lived their lives wandering aimlessly about in hopeless despair. Each day, people awaken to a new day but dwell on the same problems from days, months, even years before. Worry and anguish seem to top the lists of those constant procrastinators and apprehensive individuals who would rather give up on life than find the positive it has to offer us all.

I present a good example of the full human potential:
Over 3 years ago, I found myself in a very harmful situation. Not only was my life at stake, but my mentality, emotional sense and overall well-being was on the brink of major catastrophic malalignment. Here I sat — an emotionless wasteland filled with destructive thought patterns. Not only was my rational effected, but my physical health was at a total loss. Bound to a wheelchair, I was instructed to take a wide spectrum of prescription drugs that were going to “help” me.

Day by day, I had to take pills that would possibly spark my nerves to get me walking again; pills that would reduce muscle spasms; pills that would “reroute” nerve signals; pills that would line my stomach from all of the other pills; “happy” pills that helped for my “depression;” pills that helped calm my nerves; pills that stopped any seizures; pills that helped for fluid retention; pills that stopped my nausea from all the other pills….the list was endless.

I had to literally have people call me to remind me of which pills I had to take next, or I’d forget to either take them or take too many of them. Most of the time, I was a rolling zombie. I couldn’t sleep at night because of restless leg syndrome. I couldn’t sleep during the day because I was afraid I wouldn’t wake up.

Beside the injury that left me permanently physically impaired, my finances were in total shambles. I could no longer work the labored jobs I was used to doing. This was and still is no longer an option for me. Instead of freely driving whenever I want to, I always have to let someone know when I’m going and where I’m going…just in case my legs or arms decide to go out on me. My left eye has recently been effected by my nerve damage so when I peer at a computer screen or a familiar face, I have to focus with my right eye; as double vision has become a recurring event in my life. My back and buttocks tend to sporadically get hit with shockwaves of electrical, spine tingling numbness. When that happens, I can count on one or both of my legs quitting on me. And it happens in some of the worst of places too. I can go shopping at the local grocery store and viola — my leg simply stops working. Or better still, try going to Sunday mass and suddenly I’m holding on to aisle pews and railings because one or both legs decided they weren’t going to cooperate that day.

People will ask me, “how can you live like that?” That’s simple. I’ve learned to live to my fullest human potential. No, I can’t do all the things I used to do. But instead of focusing on all the things that I “can’t” do, I refocused my thinking on the things that I “CAN” do.

A little dog taught me a valuable lesson in life. We had our beloved “Bell” for nearly 5 years when she suddenly died of amyloidosis. (A genetic disease) It was right after she died that I experienced my first episode of paralysis. This came shortly after our roof leaked and destroyed all of our entertainment components in our built-in wall unit, and after I lost my means of employment. What a time!

“Bell” was always the girl who came and perked me up and gave me hope with her loving affection and undying devotion. I was beside myself with grief. The first few days after she died, I wasn’t prepared to adopt another animal. But suddenly I had a change of heart. My husband drove me two hours away to adopt a new “girl.” She wasn’t Bell, but she gave me hope — thus, I named her “Hope.” She made herself right at home and her mannerisms were just like Bell’s. We had chosen the perfect dog to not only help us all get over our grief, but help me to get on with my own life as well. As we watched her grow and become an important part of our lives, I felt that I had to improve my own life.

After nearly dying from a potent drug-induced seizure, I decided on my own that I was no longer going to take all the pills prescribed to me. Although I went against doctor orders, I felt like the drugs were having a more negative impact on my life than good. Eventually, I met an individual who taught me how to use stretch bands to build my muscles and regain muscular coordination. Soon thereafter, my nerves began to kickstart and I soon began to walk again. Time seemed to drag by as I slowly regained the ability to manipulate things more efficiently with my arms and hands. By the power of faith and an undeniable willpower to survive, I did.

I could’ve laid in that hospital bed that evening when I almost died and allowed death to succumb, but I CHOSE life over death. For the first time in a very long time, I wanted to live — at all costs. After months of physical, emotional, spiritual and mental transformations, I found myself back in the workforce. It was administrative work, but I was actually getting around and feeling great. But physical episodes still haunted me and led me back to the homefront.

I discovered a powerful force within myself during times of my greatest, disabling moments in life. One of them being that I geared my thoughts toward literature. Suddenly, I was being published in anthologies and the Who’s Who of World Poetry. Then came my own book of inspirational poetry. Time, although unforgiving, allowed healing to occur in more ways than one. Suddenly, I was propelled into volunteer work where my literature was being used for National tributes, monuments and charitable organizations. Suddenly, I was doing the things that God had intended me to do — write. And write, I did.

Do I still have the physical disabilities? Yes. Do I still go numb and see double? Yes I do. But what I’ve found through my own shortcomings is that there is an unexplored abundance of hope, transformation and opportunities — that before lay stagnant in the pools of yesterday’s bittersweet sorrow. Are you living life to your fullest human potential? Seek within yourself for strength, perserverence and inner faith — the rest will follow.

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Have You Reached your Full Human Potential?
by C. Bailey-Lloyd

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C. Bailey-Lloyd - Author of “Somewhere Along the Beaten Path”

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Part I: Letting Go

What if there was a way or ways to take the work out of work, out of relationships, out of life itself, while having more of what you want in all areas of your life? Imagine for a moment that you have simply let go of struggle, intense effort or hard work, and have what you really want in your life with greater ease than you ever imagined. You might find that difficult to imagine, or wonder what planet I live on where such a thing is possible. “Letting go” is the operative idea here.

Let’s take a look at those two words, “letting go,” for a moment. Letting go simply means giving up attempts to control or force experience or outcomes. To appreciate letting go, it is useful to experience its opposite. Clench both of your fists very tightly and hold them that way for a few moments. Feel the tension that spreads out from your hands, up through your arms and into your body, into your head so that even your brain feels tight. Have you ever felt that way when you were intensely working, maybe struggling to make a deadline or complete your “to do” list for the day, or make some person listen to you or get that new client that you want?

Now simply open your hands, palms up and let them relax. You might notice the tension created by your tight fists simply melt away, and your body and mind relax. Now you are in a state of receptivity, of allowing. Letting go allows things to come your way, allows what you really want to happen. What comes may be in the form of ideas, people, places or things. As long as you are holding on tightly, you’ll spend a great deal of time trying to make things happen that usually don’t, or if they do, there is no joy and little, if any, real satisfaction and fulfillment.

There is a story about catching monkeys in India that highlights the ills of holding on. When monkey hunters go out to catch monkeys, they use coconuts and the psychology of holding on. First they cut a hole in one end of a coconut, just large enough for a monkey’s hand to go through, and place a banana in the coconut. They then drill holes through the “eyes” of the coconut, attach a wire through the holes and sit behind a tree with the other end of the wire in their hands and wait for a monkey. Sure enough, a monkey always comes, delighted to find a ripe, juicy banana just waiting for the taking. The monkey thrusts its hand into the coconut and grabs the banana. There’s only one problem, and a pretty big one? When the monkey’s hand is tight in a fist around the banana, it is now too big to pull back through the hole. The monkey tries and tries but no matter how hard it tries, it cannot get its hand out of the coconut with the banana. There is a really simple solution which you might have already noticed - letting go of the banana. But the monkey never does that and as a result it is captured. The only thing standing between the monkey and freedom is “letting go.”

What are you holding on to that is standing between you and your freedom? We can hold on to people or things we love as well as those that we do not. Holding on is a form of resistance. Sometimes holding on can squeeze the life out of something very beautiful. Holding on is generally based in fear. You can rest assured that anything that is naturally yours will still be after you release your hold on it. In fact, it may be really yours for the first time since it will be yours in freedom. Letting go allows the truth to emerge, and the best course to follow.

Abraham, one of my favorite teachers, said last week that not a single action that is not an action of joy comes to any good. An action that is taken in a “holding on” frame of mind is not an action of joy but of fear. The reverse of that is also true - actions done with joy are auspicious actions, boding well for good things to come.

Letting go allows you greater access to your natural brilliance and passions, to the deepest truths of who you are and to what you “really” want.

Remember, you are a natural! You are brilliant! You are magnificent! Simply by being you. Won’t you let your light shine?

Tips:

1. Write down the things you are holding on to in your life.

2. Now look at your list and simply open your hands.

3. Practice opening your hands many times throughout the day, especially when you are feeling tight or tense.

4. Check in with yourself before taking action. Ask yourself, “Am I taking this action in joy, or in fear?” If in joy, enjoy! If in fear, stop for a few moments and open your hands before proceeding.

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Obesity plays a big role in our society today. Exercise and
eating right are a way to fight obesity. But how do you motivate
yourself to exercise? Let’s face it; it isn’t one of the most
enjoyable things do to with our time.

And time is very important to us today. There never seems to be
enough of it. So how do we get exercise motivation? Setting
goals is the key to this process.

The first step in achieving exercise motivation is to decide
what goals you want from yourself. Do you want to lose 10
pounds? 20 pounds? Or do you just want to tone your body?

The next question to ask yourself is what are you going to gain
from these goals? If you like the answers you’re getting from
these questions, then you are half way to exercise motivation!

When setting goals for exercise motivation, try not to set them
to high. Don’t set a goal to lose 50 pounds, unless you can
afford to lose 50 pounds! Don’t set a goal to run 5 miles a day,
if you have never run a mile before.

Be realistic in your goal setting. This is so important in this
process. The goals have to be both possible and realistic for
you to be able to achieve them.

After the goals are set, write down what steps you are going to
have to take to reach these goals. For instance, do you need to
stop eating dessert every night after dinner? Do you need to
give up that second cappuccino in the mornings? Can you walk to
work or lunch, instead of driving? Once you come up with a plan
to change the way you do things, it will be easier to lose
weight.

The next step is to be creative with your exercise routine.
Getting on a treadmill in a lonely room isn’t going to keep us
motivated for very long. Maybe you need to put a television in
the room with the treadmill. Or maybe find a route outdoors for
your walk or run.

Commitment is the last and final stage to achieving exercise
motivation. You have lost ten pounds and are starting to eat a
healthier diet, now you have to commit to doing it. Make time
every day and don’t let temptations get in the way. It is all in
the will power.

That is not to say that you can’t reward yourself with a day off
of exercise once in a while, or a piece of cake now and then.
That is important also, but being consistent with your exercise
routine is priority. It will soon become habitual to exercise.
You have just replaced your bad habits with a good habit!

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Enlightening PERSPECTIVES on conflict resolution have been inspired in me by sacred animals, Jessie Justin Joy , the feline teacher and dolphins. Does peace ever occur in the outer or is the idea of “peace” the ego’s way of saying, my way? Perhaps peace has been here now eternally and is simply waiting for us to dissolve back into her-his arms in all circumstances.”

I lived in an apartment by the ocean for many years and often came home to a party of cats. Jessie the feline was very social and while I was away, cats would come in the cat door and hold gatherings with each other. I enjoyed the way the cats breathed in rhythm with the near by ocean. All immersed in unique and personal life tasks, each dreaming up a unique perspective, individually encountering different levels of evolution, the cats could sit comfortably together in harmony.

Years later I was holding Unconditional Awakening Seminars as a therapist. I put a vase of flowers in the middle of the circle. If we each took a photograph of the flowers from where we sat, using the best of equipment, we would each have a different picture…all correct pictures…all lovely pictures. Can humans sit in circle and celebrate each others’ individual perspectives without needing any of them to be right or wrong?

Humans may have trouble with simply witnessing each other in the awareness that there is room for each of us and that each of us is here now to be unique. The most harmonic sound I ever heard was many birds all chirping at once. Many species of birds sang in dissonance but in the dissonance was a harmony. In higher frequency awareness so it is with humans. Each in our own learning process, engaged in our soul purpose we emit a note. All the notes together are one beautiful chorus in the 13th realm.

Each animal, human and nature being is a Divine spark of One LOVE! When I asked everyone at the Unconditional Awakening Seminar to express gratitude the room jumped up to a very high frequency and everyone realized they loved each other by design! People practiced hearing and being aware of each other as gifts instead of advising, changing and trying to alter each other. That altering technique often used in conversation, is a technique of the mind, to get everyone to replicate the mind in one being. A more sure & pleasurable route to security and happiness is to choose to turn whatever you find inside your heart back into peace within yourself. Offer up a need for anyone to be any way and suddenly, all there is to experience is LOVE. All beings are gifts. The beings that appear to cause you distress are great blessings for they give you the opportunity to find deeper peace within, based only on PEACE itself. Turn your thoughts, your physical experience and your entire energy filed back into peace. Soon you find your body is a friend to your spirit, a devoted servant available for great peace and bliss. Next you find that your spirit is simply a devotee to the ONE SOUL LOVE: ALL THAT IS!

When in conflict with a loved one, a country, a religious order, your ,mind, a neighbor, your body or a professional colleague take these steps.

1) Focus on gratitude in your heart
2) Choose to BE JOY!
3) In place of a complaint, identify your request.
4) Identify what you essentially desire in one word (example: resolution, joy, peace, love, abundance, health). Most likely, you and your opponent desire the same thing but assume that the thing has to come in different ways.
5) Allow your essential desire to be more important that the form in which you first thought it would need to appear. The universe has a plethora of ways to create what it is you seek.
6) Assume your conflict mate has appeared to give you an opportunity to be peace instead of impose your mind’s idea of peace and this blessing of grace can potentially liberate you.

Notice how the dolphins may play and cats’ may choose breathe together in all circumstances. As a dove, Jonah, once told me, “It’s easy.” To create peace, be peace.

Dr. Laurie Moore, animal communicator and miracle therapist www.spiritualdolphinswhalesanimals.com.

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If you have a very low self esteem or a lack of self-confidence you may be seeking help to gain extra confidence.

I was somebody who had a severe confidence crisis from the ages of four until the age of around twenty two.

At the age of twenty two I started on a mission of self improvement and to try to make myself increase happiness levels in my own life.

I started reading various books and articles on increasing confidence and gaining self esteem.

In one of the books, it had a chapter on what was named, “You have to start to like yourself”.

It started by saying that there are probably some things in your life and about your person that you are not happy with. Some of these you are unable to change, therefore however hard it might be, you have to accept them, and even try to start to like them. Other things about your life or your person which you are not happy with you are able to change, therefore however hard it might be you have to work towards changing them.

The things I was not happy with was:
My weight, this can be changed. Being overweight was mainly my fault, my diet and lack of exercise.

I had a bald patch on my head, this is something which I believed could not be changed, therefore I had to accept it.

I am quite short for a male, this is something which I am unable to change.

I had a severe stutter, this was something which after a lot of hard work I managed to overcome.

Stephen Hill

Stephen Hill is from Birmingham. He has a couple of websites at http://www.gain-confidence.co.uk and http:http://www.stutter-stuttering.com

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