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Every year over one million parents have to talk to their kids
about divorce. For each parent, the discussions differ, but the
goals of the discussions are universal: to openly and honestly
reassure your child of your love. Divorce is painful and
traumatic for all involved - spouses and children alike. We all
happily begin our lives together full of shared hopes and dreams
and committed to a lasting and loving relationship. Yet almost
50 % of today’s marriages end in divorce. How parents handle
divorce, however, makes the difference in their children’s
healthy adjustment or potential maladjustment.

Here’s an example of how to begin talking to your child about
your divorce.

Let’s meet Brad: Brad is 9 years old and an only child. He’s the
apple of his mother’s eye and dad’s best buddy. Brad is at the
top of his class in school and participates in the school band
and in the spelling bee. He’s also an active athlete - playing
intramural hockey and soccer, and running competitively. Both of
his parents attend all of his sports and school activities.

One day to his surprise Dad takes him out after a soccer game
and tells him “I have something sad to tell you. Mom and I are
having a hard time, and you may have noticed something wasn’t
right between us, and you are right. We’re going to live in
different houses and you’ll be spending some of the week with me
and some with your Mom. I know this will be difficult for all of
us. So we should talk about it openly together and about what
we’re both feeling.” Discussing divorce with your children is
never easy. Here are some tips to help ease this transition.

1. Communicate with your spouse (partner): Although
things have not worked out in the marriage, the two of you still
have children to raise together. Be sure you both are in
agreement as to the timeline of the change and give your
children clear dates and details. The more solid the plan, the
less anxiety your child will experience.

2. Use age appropriate language and details: A
five-year-old and ten-year-old understand very different things
and have different levels of maturity. Follow their questioning
before offering details. Be honest, but remember what is
appropriate for the age of the child or they will not comprehend
the situation.

3. Reassurance: Reassure them that they will continue to
be loved and cared for by the two of you. Let your children know
that your love for one another has changed, but that your love
for them remains strong and constant. Reiterate that the divorce
is not their fault.

4. Discretion: Make an agreement with your spouse to not
speak badly about the other spouse to the children. Refrain from
arguing in front of the children and do your best to keep them
out of your conflict!

5. Know yourself: Be aware of your own feelings of hurt
or anger. Do not make a child a confidant for the pain the
divorce is causing you. Seek a support group to help you through
this period. Share your feelings with friends and professionals.
Children are not therapists!

Always remember: Strive to be communicative and honest
during and after the divorce process because there will be
different degrees of feelings over the event as time goes on. If
you’re communicating honestly, however, you can never hurt your
child.

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Stamp collecting or philately has been a popular hobby for
years. People like the many different styles of stamps and are
drawn to the idea that some stamps have been all around the
world. Stamps are a way to remember special events, people and
places. They celebrate the ordinary and the not so ordinary.
Stamp collecting can be a fun hobby that also is an amazing
educational experience.

If you are thinking about starting a stamp collection you gather
your supplies before getting any stamps. You will need an album
or box to hold your stamps. Think about what kinds of stamps you
will be collecting. If you are looking for old stamps you may
want an album with special covers to protect your stamps. Your
collection can have a theme or you can collect any kind of
stamp. Consider joining a stamp club. At a stamp club you can
talk to others and learn about their experiences, about what is
big in stamps at the current time and what people are looking to
find. You should also get a stamp catalog that covers many
different stamps. This catalog will give you information on
different stamps so you can be informed about the stamps in your
collection. Once you know where you are going to store your
stamps and have built up an information base to get information
about collecting you can start buying stamps.

You can buy new stamps or used stamps. You can get stamps from
other collectors, dealers or the post office, to name a few. You
should also have an idea of the types of stamps that are
available for you to buy. The following list explains different
types of stamps. Definitive - feature presidents, other leaders,
national treasures, etc.; printed in large quantities
Commemorative - feature historic events, special people,
important American topics; printed in limited quantities Special
- feature symbols for special circumstances, like holidays;
printed around time of special event Airmail - used to send
overseas mail Special Purpose - feature special people, places,
events, things not covered by other stamps

Now that you know a little something about stamps and stamp
collecting you can get started on your own stamp collection.

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Fernanders earliest experience with Spiritual music were written on his little not pad in crayon. His unique style was refined by his Heavenly Father into a sound personifying prolific, which is contained in Fernanders’ explosive debut album, Acts of Love.

Acts of Love showcases Fernanders Spiritual journey with his Lord and Savior Jesus Christ embodied in a mixture of gorgeous lyrics and splendidly done vocal arrangements. This urban/pop contemporary album fall nothing short of spectacular.

Listening to Acts of Love is like listening to a brother who is a good and faithful servant, faithful over a few things, yet worthy to enter into the joy of his Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Conveying realistic messages set to touch the heart of millions both in mainstream and gospel culture.

About the Author

I started off writing lyrics at a young age. My first song was entitled Jesus Is. I composed it on a little note pad with crayons. As I time went on, my lyrical content slowly began to include themes of dating and romance. Over the years, I developed my writing skills to what they are today, which include a long list of songs with varying themes. Our Heavenly Father put all this knowledge and understanding gained from over the years to use on the Acts of Love project.

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